Apparently though, I might be a source of friction:
In some categories of interracial marriage, there are distinct gender-related trends. More than twice as many black men marry white women as vice versa, and about three-fourths of white-Asian marriages involve white men and Asian women.Should I wonder how my wife is viewed in the half-Asian community? Or should I wonder if she's half as much of a sell-out as her mother? Actually, half a sellout would be pretty generous, judging by the bottom line on our joint tax statement.C.N. Le, a Vietnamese-American who teaches sociology at the University of Massachusetts, says the pattern has created some friction in Asian-American communities.
“Some of the men view the women marrying whites as sellouts, and a lot of Asian women say, ’Well, we would want to date you more, but a lot of you are sexist or patriarchal,”’ said Le, who attributes the friction in part to gender stereotypes of Asians that have been perpetuated by American films and TV shows.
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I'm not sure I understand what you mean by, "Race is all in our heads." Many "races" appear to me to have physical features that tend to make them distinct from other "races." Of course, this is a bit broad, but I think it is generally accepted that there are some people that you can point out as being descended from a certain group of people from a certain region just by looking at them.
My full quote was: "Race is all in our heads, a weak shortcut to thinking you know something about someone before you know them."
Yes, some people look different than other people, giving you a clue where some of their ancestors might have be born. But does that help anything? Maybe it alerts us as to who is more likely to have sickle-cell anemia or something, but it doesn't do much else that isn't in our heads.
I moved from small town Indiana where everyone was a WASP to Washington, DC, where the racial diversity was very apparent.
Having lived and worked in a big city for many years racial distinctions hardly register. In fact I just realized the other day that my wife is African American.
eeew!
your wife is...
you know...
catholic?!!
’Well, we would want to date you more, but a lot of you are sexist or patriarchal,”’ said Le, who attributes the friction in part to gender stereotypes of Asians that have been perpetuated by American films and TV shows.
I am curious about this statement since this is the unconscious attraction why the white man has the yellow fever.
I'm not sure I understand what you're saying WK.
Yeah, WK, are you trying to say that white people like east Asians because the are a stereotypically patriarchal/masogynistic society? Why?
Just to push it out in the open, while I have to agree that not all Asian men are like that, many are. I'm sure the ratio is much better in the US, but I get the feeling that in Asia, it is less of a stereotype and more of a societal rule.
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